How do you know when it is time for an extra care facility? Maybe it is time when she brushes her teeth with Noxema and is not repulsed by the taste?
Maybe it is time when a magazine arrives in the mail and she immediately takes it apart to sort and re-sort the pages into a file.
Maybe it is time if she suddenly at 12 AM becomes interested in calling her long dead grandmother to find out where she lived when she was a little girl and is inconsolable until she can find the phone number.
Maybe it is time if you recognize in yourself that much of your patience with God’s plan is no longer available.
Maybe it is time when she is no longer eating enough to sustain life and you begin to think that perhaps others may be more knowledgeable than you at finding a solution to nutrition.
Maybe it is time if you simply want to help her more than you are capable of doing.
Maybe it is all or none of these ideas. Maybe there are other thoughts that have crept into your mind as you realize how deep your love is and how shallow your skill set is.
Living apart will probably be as hard as living together for the first time when we joined ourselves in matrimony fifty-three years ago.
It makes me sad and anxious.
Carpe Diem
Adjunct_Wizard 
Such difficult days and immense heartache. You are in my thoughts; may you find peace in the transition.
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It has been tough for me and my family to decide what is best for Cheryl. I had been primarily focused on the financial aspect and how to sustain it. It took my niece and my daughter and my sister to help me see that is just a small (but important) part of all of this. I love her deeply. I am realizing that I cannot keep up with the changes in her disease and it is grinding me down quicker than I thought.
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I hope that you will find your times together more precious, sweeter, enjoyable, as you become more rested and relieved. Bless you.
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I hope so too. This is a tough decision but I am looking forward to being a husband again.
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