It Must be a Terrible Thing to be Losing Your Mind

And be aware of what is happening.

These days Cheryl is certain that we are not home and wonders when we are going home.

In the background she knows she is home.

But maybe not.  Cheryl has lost most concept of time.  Calendar time,  Day of the week, hour of the day, time until the next event, how much lead time to get dressed or ready; all of these time conceptions are gone. She becomes angry with me reminding her how much time she has left. Maybe I am doing it wrong. She talked (and talks) in implication and inference but my conversation is direct. When she says she is going to do something I assume that she going to do it and I will reminder of her conversation, even help steer her toward her goal that seems to anger her sometimes. It is not my intent to anger her but merely to remind her what road she started out with and keep her on it to completion.

Little girls seem to come and go. The woman who takes care of the little girls seems to come and go with them. Others seem to move her stuff around. And then daylight returns.

Carpe Diem.

2 thoughts on “It Must be a Terrible Thing to be Losing Your Mind

  1. I think of it as losing the context rather than losing concept of time (although that is also a piece of it). If we have an appointment, my HWP always asks about what time, but it does not impact his preparation for leaving.
    I see the “context” part this way. Whatever he was dreaming about when he wakes either in the morning or from a nap, is his reality (at least temporarily). It may be concern for farm work we have not engaged in for years, sports/ events involving our children as if they were in school and not adults. Also, we when get a call or visit from someone we knew or worked with years ago, his reference is those early years and not the recent visit. The encounter triggers memories of the past and he will comment about things that happened decades ago that he thinks we still need to address. My reminders that those things were long ago, and we are retired does not always sit well. Sometimes saying “it has been taken care of” works. Usually, he eventually lets it go.


    • Thanks Jayne. You have described it better than I. Your HWP’s actions/reactions are very much like my Cheryl’s. … I will try “It’s been taken care of” occasionally and see if I get in trouble for doing it. 🙂 I am always interested in what others have done in similar situations to help their mate, spouse, friend, significant other.


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