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Habits, Routines, Small Adjustments, Change and Growth

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This morning I restarted my morning chair yoga exercise routine. This morning I restarted morning meditation. Two things I notice: I have a pleasant gentle ache in various muscles from the stretching exercise, I did not hear the tinnitus in my ears while focused on breathing. These came to me as I sat across the room to revisit that short experience and my sense of time passing so slowly dissipated while I did these activities. My timer seemed to announce completion after a mere ten milliseconds instead of minutes from when I started it.

Time compressed. Where am I going? What am I hunting for?

Good health and peace in my soul is my spontaneous answer to the second question. Does going mean physically moving and travel to somewhere? Or is it internal? Some of each? Neither?

When Cheryl was still alive and with me here at home, I began to worry that my own health and well being suffered because I was totally focused on her health, what she ate, how much she ate, her mobility, her balance, her attention, her memories, her perception, her moods, her bowel urges. I rejected concern for myself.

Much of that concern then is useful for me now. Now I am focused on my health, what I eat, how much I eat, my mobility, my balance, my attention, my memories, my perception, my moods, my bowel urges. I think older folks focus too much on bowel urges. At the same time it seems important to note what foods that used to be favorites no longer seem to be tolerated as well as they once were.

When Cheryl was still here I began and kept up for many months an early morning routine of chair yoga. I bought a book. (I am always hunting for the manual.) I found the book back this morning after I finished my ten minute scheme to start. The exercises are simple and directions have illustrations. (YouTube has plenty of these but as soon as one gets into the zen, the calm, the mood, some extra-volume political message appears and phffst, just like that zen is destroyed. For an unreasonable sum, YouTube is ad free.)

Facebook shows me advertisements for an app with some 90-something guy with great abs doing chair exercises too. Those are amusing and laughable and less obnoxious and quieter. Welcome to the world of zen and social media.

I am not hunting for perfect abs. I remain uninterested in protein shakes.

I am interested in losing a little weight because my pants would be a bit looser. Most of that weight is hiding out on the front of me. I see it every day in the mirror.

I like meat. Meat has protein and tastes much better than a protein shake. Peanuts, nuts, eggs, oats, seeds and wheat have protein and all of those taste better than a protein shake. If it isn’t broccoli or celery, there is some protein in it. Broccoli has better taste than a protein shake.

Where am I going? That remains to be seen and felt. I strive to find a deeper meaning within myself.

For most of the spring and summer months I found something in pedaling my bike along the bike paths around town. I found an inner peace. I learned to focus over time on the piece of the trail immediately in front of me. I looked far ahead only to anticipate obstacles and plan maneuvers around them.

I returned to our church. Cheryl was much better at religion than I am. I am more questioning. I returned to church not for the religiosity. I returned for the community. I sit in a different place. (Everyone seems to have their place in a church.) Cheryl had a place that she liked to sit and of course I sat with her. I sit in a different place now. Just me.

I am going toward the next thing. That thing is right in front of me. It is not way out in the distance.

“Winter is coming”, says the head knight staffing the wall in Game of Thrones. It is indeed. Prepare for it. Dress for it. Do not be anxious. Anxiety serves no purpose.

Carpe Diem.

Strange New World

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It is a strange new experience for me this new existence without Cheryl. In order to fill a large part of the time void I have been riding my new bike around for exercise, but mostly, I am exploring bike paths that I have not ridden on before. Occasionally I ride on streets nearby but car drivers generally scare me. I am an old man and I have first hand experience with falling down. I imagine being knocked down by a car would be significantly worse.

I am sitting here in my living area next to Cheryl’s empty chair. between that chair and mine is an end table. It is one of a pair I built many years ago as an off the wall furniture building project I created for myself. There is no special significance to any of that except that one evening last summer Cheryl began to scratch off the coating of varnish that I had finished them with. Over a period of several days she picked at a nick on the edge of the table until she had exposed a flaw in the finish. She worked on that flaw until she had scratched an oval area about the size of a soup spoon. I may have been upset at the time but I distinctly remember thinking to myself, I can refinish the table later sometime.

I think I shall never do any refinishing on the table. It is such a strong image that I get when I look at this little marred spot. She was so very determined. Her only tool was her thumbnail.

As I ride my bike around I think of things like this. How memories can be remembered by an insignificant prompt like a scratch on a piece of furniture. Scratches give furniture life.

Yesterday I teased my neighbor to ride with me. He had expressed an interest before. Occasionally he tells me about seeing a used bike for sale somewhere. I bought a new bicycle and as a result have a spare. He told me he has not ridden a bike since grad school.

It was a good day to ride. It was relatively cool. It was mostly overcast. He could not find his helmet in the garage clutter. I told him we were going to a park and it was mostly flat. As long as he did not fall off, he would not need a helmet. It was my own little joke. Besides I continued, aim for the weeds if you are going to fall over.

We started by riding around the park loop which is a bit shy of two miles. I took him over to a connector that joined this loop to the nearby airport loop. I stopped at the bottom of a long gentle grade and asked if he wanted to continue. He said yes and off I went. At the top of the grade I stopped near a bench to drink some water and watch the airplanes for a bit. A little out of breath, he remarked that the grade was longer than he expected. I laughed and told him the reward for going up was coming back down. We continued on for a couple more miles of flatness and at another bench stopped and watched the planes some more.

We turned around and headed back to the car. When we got there he remarked that he had forgotten that he had hand brakes. His old bike had a coaster brake. It reminded me of another story.

Many years ago Cheryl and took a Road Scholar tour to Mackinac Island in northern Michigan. One afternoon that we had to ourselves we rented bicycles to ride around the island. I tried to get her on a tandem bike with me but she was not having it. We rented a couple of bikes that looked like old Schwinn bikes. Both had coaster brakes. I had not ridden a coaster brake bike since I was about ten years old. I was fine until we stopped at an ice cream place on the island to get a snack. I had a mild panic stop by dragging my feet. Cheryl however made a smooth controlled stop because the only kind of bike she had was one with a coaster brake.

Old furniture and conversation and bike riding remind me of life stories with Cheryl. I hope that it will always be that way.

It was a good day. We only rode for eight miles which is coincidentally the approximate distance around Mackinac Island. When I asked him today how his legs felt he replied fine, but I can still feel the bicycle seat. He used to come with Cheryl and me to pizza Tuesday. He is a good friend.

Yesterday, I left him hunting for his helmet in the organized clutter of his garage as I left to visit with my son. Perhaps when the bicycle seat impression fluffs back out and if he finds his helmet he will come again.

Carpe Diem.