I started a single line entry in my note book a few days ago with this single line – A thousand thoughts and prayers amount to less than a single action. It was a thought for the day from somewhere. I get a lot of newsletters and other useless email. This was included in one of them.

People say or write it to each other all the time, ” My thoughts and prayers are with you.” For those who are unable to write or say actual words there is the text-message hieroglyphic picture of praying hands which Anglos interpret as prayer but Hindus probably interpret differently. I do it too. Is it cynical to think of it as a shallow and ineffective response to a request for help of some sort? Caring and caregiving are two very different concepts.

The kitchen garbage can is full. VS. Please, John, take the garbage out. Most will think this a bad example but I do not. The first is a description of a condition. The second is a specific request to a specific person.

Most of us are not specific about any need that we may have for help. It is unusual to make a specific request. It is very typical to talk about our own situation or describe some condition that we are in. Few will volunteer to help without a specific request.

Grace and peace be to all of you who help Cheryl and I without a specific request from us. We love you dearly and thank you for your gracious help.

We do not know the other person’s situation. We are not walking in their shoes. We are not taking their path through life. Let us all listen closely and ask, “How can I help?”

Carpe Diem.