My search for grace and meaning after a former care partnering life with a wife who suffered from Parkinson's disease and dementia giving her a confused and disorienting world.
Yesterday was a good day. It was also a long day. Today she is resting in her chair. She is completely asleep.
Comfortable
She did not stir when I put a blanket over her. She did not stir when I held her hand. She peeked out once as I looked at her to see if she was dreaming. As I sat next to her for awhile she mumbled and was moving her eyes and throat. Talking in her dream. When we were still home it was quiet enough for me to hear what she might be saying. At Bridgeway Pointe she is talking even softer. Sometimes her lips move but no sound comes out. I have developed the ability to read lips but not if she mumbles under what breath she has left.
Yesterday she had several visitors. Felicia helped her eat breakfast yesterday. Felicia is a wonderful asset when she is on duty in the Harbor. She is always cheery and kind. She is able to roll with the conversation no matter how odd it may be.
What a change a day makes. She was more active yesterday. Today she is sleepy.
Yesterday
Today, she is frail and “out of it.” I asked her about breakfast and she told me that she had popcorn. A new unused answer is that one. I wanted to ask if she had anything on her popcorn but I kept the follow up question to myself. She is thinking about and talking about some work project while she picks at perceived loose threads from the blanket I put over her earlier. Today, she off in lalaland.
This behavior is no different than when she was home with me. She would be pretty good one day and off in the weeds for a day or two after. I relate this to sleep and how well she slept the night before. Yesterday it was good. Today it was not so good.
The drug for nausea – Ondansetron – seems to work very well. I have adjusted when Cheryl takes it a bit. The instructions merely say three times a day and at first I interpreted that to mean 7AM, 1PM and 7PM which are normal times for her to take meds. For the past couple days I have given her the evening pill at about 5PM which is 45 minutes to an hour before we would ordinarily eat dinner. It seems to be working for her. I have repeatedly asked her about stomach issues and she reports no issues with her stomach.
This report – no funny stomach – is very encouraging since it has been her main complaint for months. I can empathize. Over the past couple years she has lost approximately thirty-five pounds of weight. The dyskinesia puts her body in constant exercise but the combination of no sense of smell and a slightly uncomfortable stomach keeps her from eating much. (During this whole time she has not vomited but as she says, it is right there.)
Quetiapine Fumarate – 25mg
The drug used as a sleep aid – Quetiapine – might or might not be working as hoped. She is prescribed 1/4 of this little pill before bedtime (10PM). Shown above it is approximately 1/8 inch in diameter. We have a pill spliter but these are not scored for cutting in half as many pills are and certainly not scored for quarters.
The first night she took this she slept completely through the night. This was the first time in approximately two years. The second night she got up once. The third night she got up once and seemed restless for a bit when returning to bed. The fourth night was similar to nights before she started taking it. I am not convinced that she is getting the same dose each evening, so I will find a way to slit these tiny little pills as uniform as possible.
An update: Last night seemed better. She used the walking frame for stability. Only once.
Quetiapine was developed in 1985 and approved for medical use in the United States in 1997.[6][9] It is available as a generic medication.[10] In the United States, the wholesale cost is about US$12 per month as of 2017.[11] In the United Kingdom, a month’s supply costs the NHS about £60 as of 2017.[10] In 2017, it was the 76th most commonly prescribed medication in the United States, with more than ten million prescriptions.[12][13]
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